Have you ever heard the classic fable about the ants and the grasshoppers? It’s a great story that usually teaches us a basic life lesson about hard work, preparation, and the dangers of procrastination. Here’s the quick recap: The hardworking ants spent all summer diligently storing food for the winter. The grasshoppers, however, simply played all day. When the ants warned them, the grasshoppers scoffed, “There is plenty of time to work!” But as it always does, winter quickly arrived. Suddenly, the grasshoppers were starving and had nowhere to turn. They rushed to the ants, desperately pleading, "Please, share your food with us!" In the original tale, the ants turn them away with a stern lecture. But in this retelling, something wonderful and counter-cultural happens. The Gospel Twist The shocked ants stared at the freezing grasshoppers in amazement. “Do you really think we would share our food with you?” they asked, perhaps half-jokingly. The grasshoppers, humbled and desperate, offered a meager deal: “If you give us some of your food, we will help you next summer.” At this point, the ants could have stood firm on the principle of self-reliance, demanding the grasshoppers face the natural consequences of their foolish choices. But the ants decided to operate by a higher principle—a principle we are called to live by every day. The ants sighed and said, “Okay. Only because the Bible tells us to ‘love your neighbor as yourself’ in Matthew 19:19, Matthew 22:39, and James 2:8.” Grace: The Ant’s Example This version of the story has such a profound point for us as followers of Christ. Yes, the grasshoppers were lazy. Yes, they were foolish. They had only themselves to blame for their hunger. The ants were perfectly justified in keeping their well-earned stores. But the kind ants chose generosity over judgment. They chose to extend grace where the grasshoppers had deserved consequence. The ants lived out what Paul later taught: “It is more blessed to give than to receive” (Acts 20:35). This is a beautiful reflection of God’s own heart toward us! We are the grasshoppers, caught up in the temporary pleasures and distractions of this world, often ignoring the wisdom and warnings of our Heavenly Father. We don't deserve His provision, yet because of His great love, He shares His abundance with us. He saved us not because we worked hard for it, but because He is generous and commanded us to love. Working While it is Day Does this mean that diligence doesn't matter? Absolutely not! The story is still a powerful reminder that diligent work is a Christian virtue. The Bible is clear: we are called to be hard workers (Proverbs 6:6-11, Colossians 3:23). We are called to use the gifts, talents, and time God has given us wisely. As Christians, our work isn't just about earning a paycheck; it's about serving the Lord in all we do. Our primary mission as believers is spiritual, which means we must be diligent in sharing the Gospel, serving the poor, and building up the Church. This is our storehouse work! The grasshoppers learned a valuable lesson: no work and all play makes for very hungry grasshoppers. When we neglect our spiritual disciplines—prayer, Bible study, and fellowship—we end up spiritually hungry and unprepared for the "winters" and trials of life. The Bottom Line: What Would Jesus Do? The grasshoppers were happy and thankful, and hopefully, they learned their lesson. But the deeper message for us lies in the ants' response. We must strive for the ant’s diligence in our lives and ministry, but we must always approach our neighbors with the ant’s generosity and grace. Our faith calls us to work tirelessly until Jesus comes, being "steadfast, immovable, always abounding in the work of the Lord, knowing that in the Lord your labor is not in vain" (I Corinthians 15:58). But it also calls us to pause our well-deserved triumph to extend a hand to the needy, just as Christ extended His hand to us. Every day, we face opportunities to show the world What Jesus Would Do. It involves both working hard for God’s Kingdom and loving our neighbor enough to share the blessings He has given us. You are loved. Ray Reynolds, PhD #ReynoldsRap #ReclaimingHope #PeachtreePress #RayReynolds #MistyReynolds #lifecoaching #inspiration #encourage #positive #rayreynoldsrap #reclaiminghopeministry #Christianity #summerdale #churchofchrist #bible #authentic #Christian #positive #practical #community #mentoring #forgiveness #gettingtoknowyourBible #GTKYB #laziness #work **This blog was the fruit of a study I did with my son, Seth, for a speech at Lads to Leaders in 2011. We co-wrote dozens of blogs, sermons and classes throughout his childhood. This blog was an adaption of one of my favorites.

The term “Jezebel spirit” has become a recognizable (and often controversial) phrase in certain Christian circles, particularly within charismatic and Pentecostal denominations. It’s used to describe a manipulative, narcissistic, dominating, and often sensual influence believed to be at work in the church today. Of course, the description draws its name from the biblical Queen Jezebel—a figure infamous for promoting pagan worship and persecuting God’s prophets in ancient Israel (I Kings 18-21). The Allegation In the contemporary church context, those who warn about the “Jezebel spirit” often allege that its influence manifests in several ways. I want to highlight four key areas: 1. Manipulation & Control: The “Jezebel spirit” is a mindset driving people (both men and women) to seek unwarranted control over church leaders, ministries, or congregations. This can appear as lobbying, backbiting, or using spiritual authority to coerce obedience. Romans 16:18 describes manipulators who use "smooth talk and flattery" to deceive. Specifically, women can exploit their beauty, social influence and maternal instincts to control men in the church. In some circles women pastor churches and seek to undermine of influential men. Proverbs 26:24-26 warns against believing those with deceitful hearts despite charming words. Pay attention. 2. Erosion of Authority: The “Jezebel spirit” is often linked to undermining established spiritual authority, particularly male leadership, which critics view as a direct attack on a biblically prescribed church structure. Modern day feminists and advocates are hard pressed to find biblical examples of women in church leadership. Elders, deacons and the apostles were all men (I Timothy 3:1-8). If God didn’t ordain it, command it, condone it, or reveal it by example, why is it an issue? Romans 13:1-7 states that all authority comes from God and resisting it is resisting God's ordinance. Paul told Timothy (I Timothy 2:12) that a woman should not usurp authority over a man in the church (or in the home). It doesn’t get much clearer. 3. Moral Compromise: Echoing the biblical Jezebel’s promotion of pagan fertility rites, the modern interpretation of the “Jezebel spirit” frequently connects the spirit to sexual immorality, promiscuity, or a general watering down of moral standards within the church body. This is especially the case in churches where image is everything. James 4:4 says that “friendship with the world is enmity toward God.” We are not to "be conformed to this world" (Romans 12:2). Unfortunately we live in an Instagram following, Starbucks drinking, Facebook liking, podcast watching, Gucci wearing, tech savvy culture that rewards pagan living. Churches should be more focused on biblical principles not on what’s seen as sexy or visually stimulating to outsiders. 4. Suppression of Truth: The ultimate goal, according to those who use the term “Jezebel spirit” is to silence truth tellers and replace them with false, self-serving teachers. There simply is not a biblical precedent for women pastors. Churches that permit this spirit are weak and compromising. The truth sets us free (John 8:32) because Jesus IS the Truth (John 14:6). Culture should not determine church doctrine or policy. This is why people are leaving “woke” churches in droves. The Focus Whether one accepts the idea of a specific "Jezebel spirit" or not, the underlying issues it attempts to address are relevant to the 21st-century church, primarily abuse of power and manipulation. When people feel that their God-given spiritual gifts, authority, or voice are being suppressed, they may label the suppressive environment or person as exhibiting a "Jezebel spirit." Conversely, the accusation itself can be a powerful, and sometimes unfair, weapon used to silence critics, especially women seeking leadership roles or offering strong correction to male-dominated hierarchies. The label can unfairly dismiss legitimate calls for accountability as merely the work of a demonic influence. Proceed with caution. “Hell hath no fury like….” Well, you probably know the rest. The real havoc being wrought in many modern churches isn't just by a single "spirit," but by a failure to practice transparent leadership, mutual submission, and genuine accountability. Women are workers. They are doers. It is within their very nature to show compassion, build relationships and speak their mind. They are more spiritual, thoughtful and (usually) more goal driven than men. This can also be a weakness when exploited or elevated. A church dedicated to humility, authentic biblical community, and Christ-like servant leadership (where all members are valued and respected) is the strongest defense against any form of manipulation, regardless of what label it’s given. The focus should always be on discerning fruit (Matthew 7:16-20) and fostering a culture where all power is wielded to serve, not to control. There is room for everyone in the church: man, woman, child, Jew, Greek, African, American, Asian, young or old ALL have a seat at the Lord’s table. Instead of compromising for culture we should be seeking the biblical model. His way is always the best way. You are loved. Ray Reynolds, PhD #ReynoldsRap #ReclaimingHope #PeachtreePress #RayReynolds #MistyReynolds #lifecoaching #inspiration #encourage #positive #rayreynoldsrap #reclaiminghopeministry #Christianity #summerdale #churchofchrist #bible #authentic #Christian #positive #practical #community #mentoring #forgiveness #gettingtoknowyourBible #GTKYB #Jezebel #Diotrephes #leadership

Money is perhaps the most universal concern in human life. It affects our stress levels, our relationships, and the decisions we make every day. So, what did Jesus have to say about finances, assets, and giving? It’s been circulated for nearly a century that Jesus “spoke more about money than any other subject.” That’s not entirely accurate, but suffice it to say it was one of His most frequently referenced topics or themes among with messages on the kingdom, Hell, judgment, faith, the Father, humility and repentance. Jesus never wrote a personal finance book, but His teachings, encapsulated in the Gospels, offer a radical, counter-cultural framework for how we should view and handle our resources. In fact,16 out of 40+ parables deal with money or possessions. This means that a significant portion of His teachings focused on financial stewardship, generosity, and the dangers of greed. This emphasis on money reflects its prominence in His teachings, with one out of every ten verses in the Gospels addressing the subject. The primary message of the parables revolve around three central themes: the danger of idolatry, the necessity of good stewardship, and the blessing of generosity. I want us to consider each of these concepts. 1) The Danger of Idolatry: The Core Conflict Between God & Gold Jesus cut straight to the heart of the matter with a challenging statement that makes it impossible to compartmentalize faith and finance: “No one can serve two masters; for either he will hate the one and love the other, or else he will be loyal to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve God and mammon.” (Matthew 6:24) The term "mammon" is often translated simply as "wealth" or "money," but it carries a connotation of material possessions personified as a false god or idol. Jesus wasn't condemning currency; He was identifying the spiritual trap of placing security, identity, and ultimate loyalty in money rather than in God. This theme appears again when He observes the difficulty riches create for those seeking the Kingdom: “It is easier for a camel to go through the eye of a needle than for a rich man to enter the kingdom of God.” (Mark 10:25) You may have noticed that there are parables that specifically teach about money or possessions : The Workers in the Vineyard (Matthew 20:1-16) The Talents (Matthew 25:14-30) The Rich Fool (Luke 12:13-21) The Unjust Steward (Luke 16:1-13) The Rich Man & Lazarus (Luke 16:19-31) There are also parables where money is a significant element in the story : The Hidden Treasure (Matthew 13:44) The Pearl of Great Price (Matthew 13:45-46) The Unforgiving Debtor (Matthew 18:23–35) The Lost Coin (Luke 15:8–9) The Prodigal Son (Luke 15:11-32) The Pharisee & the Tax Collector (Luke 18:10–14) Jesus' frequent discussions on money were not a focus on wealth itself, but a practical way to teach spiritual truths about stewardship, contentment, generosity, and avoiding greed. He used money as a universally understood concept to illustrate principles of the Kingdom of Heaven. The approach Jesus used to tackle the dangers of idolatry is brilliantly executed. He’s able to weave the truth into the story by creating an image that has multiple layers. Any attempt to approach a teaching, or a parable, with a fresh lens will reap tremendous spiritual dividends. 2) The Necessity of Good Stewardship: The Power of the Kingdom Parables Jesus used stories about money to illustrate eternal truths, focusing not on how much we have, but what we do with it. The topic of stewardship was important to Jesus and later it would be a vital practice of the early church. Specifically, the parables reveal the benefits of good stewardship and the power of kingdom living. The Danger of Misplaced Trust The Parable of the Rich Fool (Luke 12:16-21): A man builds bigger barns to hoard his bountiful harvest, only to have God call him to account that very night. The core lesson? Earthly wealth offers no guarantee of tomorrow, and it’s foolish to be "rich toward himself, and not toward God." The Parable of the Rich Man & Lazarus (Luke 16:19-31): The rich man ignores the beggar, Lazarus, at his gate, living in extravagant comfort. The consequence is not based on his wealth itself, but on his indifference and failure to use his abundance to alleviate suffering. The Responsibility of Resources The Parable of the Talents (Matthew 25:14-30): The master gives three servants money (talents) according to their ability. Two invest and double the funds; one buries his talent out of fear. This parable makes it clear that we are expected to multiply and utilize the resources (whether spiritual or financial) given to us. Idle resources are unacceptable to the Master. The Parable of the Unjust Steward (Luke 16:1-13): This complex parable ultimately teaches shrewdness. The steward uses his master's resources wisely (though selfishly) to prepare for his future. Jesus encourages His followers to be equally "shrewd" in using worldly wealth to secure eternal friendships and rewards. The Parables of the Hidden Treasure & the Pearl of Great Price (Matthew 13:44-46): These two short parables illustrate the incalculable value of the Kingdom of Heaven. In both cases, the individual "goes and sells all that he has" to acquire the supreme treasure. This demonstrates that true devotion may require a radical and total divestment from worldly assets. 3) The Blessing of Generosity: The Seed Principle Jesus taught that giving should be done with pure motives, quietly, and with expectation.While the exact phrase "seed principle" is more commonly used in later New Testament letters (like II Corinthians 9:6), the concept is deeply rooted in Jesus's own agricultural parables, particularly those concerning the Kingdom of Heaven. Jesus taught that giving, whether of time, service, or money, is not a financial transaction but an act of sowing. This act requires faith and patience, expecting that God will provide a corresponding, and often exponentially greater, harvest. And He heavily emphasized godly attributes, attitudes and action. The Attributes of Giving In the Sermon on the Mount, Jesus instructed: “But when you do a charitable deed, do not let your left hand know what your right hand is doing, that your charitable deed may be in secret; and your Father who sees in secret will Himself reward you openly.” (Matthew 6:3-4) Giving is meant to be a private transaction between the believer and God, free from the desire for human applause. The Attitudes of Giving In the Parable of the Widow’s Two Mites (Mark 12:41-44) there is a backstory. Jesus watched as wealthy people put large sums into the temple treasury. But He praised the poor widow who put in two copper coins—all she had. Jesus taught: the value of a gift is measured not by its size, but by the percentage it represents of the giver’s ability. She gave all she had; they gave only out of their abundance. The Action of Giving Ultimately, Jesus shifted the focus from acquisition to investment. He encouraged us to think about a permanent return: “Do not lay up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy and where thieves break in and steal; but lay up for yourselves treasures in heaven... For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.” (Matthew 6:19-21) Jesus’ financial advice is simple, yet profound: Be an honest, active, and generous steward of the money God allows you to control, but never let that money become your master. Your greatest security is always in the One who owns everything. It’s His money. As we close, remember that stewardship isn't a burden; it's a blessing—an opportunity to partner with God in His work. Whether it's the talents, the time, or the treasure He's entrusted to you, approach it with gratitude and intentionality. Let your life reflect the truth that everything you have is His, and may the way you manage it bring glory to your King and further His Kingdom here on earth. Be a good steward! You are loved. Ray Reynolds, PhD #ReynoldsRap #ReclaimingHope #PeachtreePress #RayReynolds #MistyReynolds #lifecoaching #inspiration #encourage #positive #rayreynoldsrap #reclaiminghopeministry #Christianity #summerdale #churchofchrist #bible #authentic #Christian #positive #practical #community #mentoring #shepherding #gettingtoknowyourBible #GTKYB #stewardship #giving #tithe #collection #offering

Charlie Kirk's passing has definitely rocked my confidence in the people of this world. It seems evident that some people can’t have healthy, spirited, respectful debates. What’s happened to respecting the views of others? What about free speech? How can a Christian express their views without fearing a similar fate? What’s worse is the hateful speech rising up from the extreme left. I’m appalled that the anti-gun party is attempting to use guns to silence the opposition. The party of “love is love” is content with spreading hate. The party that preaches freedom without limits prefers to impose limitations on free speech. Is this a political blog? No. But I will use this space to take a stand against hate. I stand against violence. I stand against opposition. I stand against wickedness. This is a moment of profound sadness for our country. It is also a powerful reminder of a spiritual truth. Charlie Kirk spent his life passionately advocating for what he believed was right and good, and in doing so, he became a voice for a generation. His death, a consequence of the very spiritual darkness we are told to fight, underscores the urgency of our Christian mission. We are reminded that our time on earth is a gift, and how we use our voices and talents matters for eternity. Let's not let the sadness of this moment paralyze us, but instead, let it ignite a new fire to stand for truth, to speak with conviction, and to always put on the full armor of God. His work continues through all of us. We must also focus on unity, love and forgiveness. Erika Kirk has shown a powerful example that should inspire us all. Our real enemy is not someone from the opposing political party. Or another religious person. Or even a hateful, wicked, evil person. Our enemy is the devil! The Lies of the Enemy There's a subtle but powerful lie the enemy uses to divide us: he convinces us that our fellow human beings are the problem. We start to see our opponents in arguments, those with different beliefs, or even people who have hurt us, as the enemy. We spend our energy and emotional capital fighting with each other, launching accusations and attacks, while the true adversary watches and rejoices. But the Bible makes it clear that this isn't the real battlefield. Ephesians 6:12 tells us, “For our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms.” We are not at war with each other. We are in a spiritual battle, and the real enemy is Satan and his forces. The Enemy's Schemes Satan's goal is to steal, kill, and destroy. He uses deception, lies, and temptation to create chaos and division. He loves to see us turn on one another, because it distracts us from the spiritual fight we're meant to be winning. He sets traps of unforgiveness, bitterness, and pride, all designed to isolate us and weaken our spiritual defenses. Think about it. When we're consumed by anger toward a spouse, a friend, or a coworker, who benefits? Not us, and certainly not them. The only one who gains is the one who wants to see us disconnected from God and from each other. Our Call to Action Instead of shooting arrows at each other, we must turn our focus to the "fiery darts of the evil one." This means we need to get serious about our spiritual lives. We need to be able to recognize Satan's schemes for what they are—deceptive and destructive—and resist him. This isn't a passive process. We must take up the whole armor of God, as described in Ephesians 6. This isn't just a metaphor; it's a practical guide for daily spiritual living: • The belt of truth to hold everything together. • The breastplate of righteousness to guard our hearts. • The shoes of the gospel of peace so we're always ready to share hope. • The shield of faith to extinguish the enemy's attacks. • The helmet of salvation to protect our minds. • The sword of the Spirit, which is the Word of God, as our offensive weapon. Our call to action also includes a crucial component: prayer. We are called to pray for others who are caught in Satan's snares and suffering from his deception. They are not our enemies; they are casualties of the same war we are fighting. We need to pray for their eyes to be opened and for their hearts to be freed. The Battle vs. The War The battle is not over, but our victory over the devil and death is secure because of Christ Jesus. Thinking about the spiritual life as a "war" rather than a series of individual “battles” is crucial. When we only focus on isolated skirmishes—a moment of temptation, a disagreement with a loved one, a personal failing—we risk becoming discouraged and losing sight of the larger, eternal conflict. The "war" perspective allows us to see these individual struggles as parts of a grander narrative of God's redemptive plan and Satan's relentless opposition. It reminds us that our primary enemy is not a difficult boss or a challenging circumstance, but the spiritual forces of wickedness that seek to distract and defeat us. By keeping the whole war in mind, we can develop a strategic mindset, taking up the full armor of God and engaging in prayer and community, not just for a specific problem, but for a lasting victory that is already secured in Christ Jesus. This perspective provides resilience, purpose, and a steadfast hope that transcends the temporary setbacks of any single battle. Final Thought When we stand firm in the truth, and fight the right enemy, we can be victorious in every sense of the word. We’ve got to stop fighting with each other and start fighting for each other. We are a family in Christ, united against a common foe. Let’s fight together. Side by side. To the very end! I pray for the Charlie Kirk family. I also pray for the Tyler Robinson family. And I pray for the hundreds of witnesses who saw this tragedy unfold. Most of all, I pray we can emerge with a spiritual hunger to fight the good fight of faith. You are loved. Ray Reynolds, PhD #ReynoldsRap #ReclaimingHope #PeachtreePress #RayReynolds #MistyReynolds#counseling #lifecoaching #inspiration #encourage #positive #rayreynoldsrap#reclaiminghopeministry #Christianity #summerdale #churchofchrist #bible#didaskobibleinstitute #authentic #Christian #positive #practical #community#mentoring #death #dying #grief #turningpointusa #RIPCharlieKirk #SpiritualWarfare #StandForTruth

Our elders have decided to add some men to the eldership in Summerdale. This is an exciting time but also a time to remain sober and prayerful. We spent some time considering the qualifications of an elder, the scriptural purpose of their work and the necessity for serving the Lord in any capacity. I’ve preached on it and written about it to help our congregation see the tremendous responsibility and wonderful blessing it is to have shepherds that follow in the footsteps of Jesus. The church is not just an organization; it is a flock, and every flock needs good shepherds. In the New Testament, the role of an elder is presented as a high calling, a sacred trust to care for the souls of God's people. And who better to learn from than the ultimate shepherd, Jesus Himself? Jesus clearly made a distinction between a shepherd and a hired hand (John 10:11-15). A shepherd (elder) has in his heart a God-given love for the sheep and a desire to care for those entrusted to him. The hired hand is unwilling to become as emotionally involved—unwilling to confront the dangers that threaten the sheep—unwilling to truly love the people under his care. As you consider a man for the role of an elder, how should evaluate him? I like to consider a man in light of the seven essential duties which characterize a good shepherd, like Jesus: 1. Pastoral Intimacy - An elder must develop personal relationships with all members of the church family. He will be held to account for them. (John 10:11-14, Hebrews 13:17) In John 10:3 Jesus says, “He calls his own sheep by name and leads them out.” A good shepherd knows his sheep intimately. They aren't just a number in the pews or a line item on a roster. They are individuals with unique stories, struggles, and joys. For elders, this means investing time in personal relationships. It's about more than just a handshake on Sunday morning. It’s about visiting the sick, comforting the grieving, celebrating with the joyful, and listening with a compassionate ear. It's about knowing the names of their children, the details of their jobs, and the burdens they carry. This kind of personal knowledge builds trust and creates a safe space for people to be vulnerable. 2. Pastoral Tutelage - An elder must provide personal biblical instruction for increasing character, skills, knowledge, faith, love, and enthusiasm. (Acts 20:20-27; I Timothy 4:16; II Timothy 3:16-17; 4:1-2 Titus 3:1-2, 8) John 10:4 says, “When he has brought out all his own, he goes on ahead of them, and his sheep follow him because they know his voice.” Jesus didn't just give instructions from a distance. He led the way, walking the path of faithfulness and obedience. He lived out the very truths He taught. When questions are raised, or mentoring is needed, an elder needs to be equipped to teach. Elders are called to a form of leadership emulated by Jesus. Their lives should be a living sermon, reflecting the values and character of Christ. This means being the first to serve, the first to confess sin, and the first to forgive. It means leading with humility, not with a spirit of control. When the flock sees their shepherds living out the gospel, they are more likely to follow their example and trust their guidance. 3. Pastoral Guidance - An elder must offer objective biblical direction through conflicts, distortions in thinking, and difficult decisions for those under his care. (II Timothy 3:16-17) This guidance includes being willing to lay down your own life for the sheep. John 10:11 says, “I am the good shepherd. The good shepherd lays down his life for the sheep.” This is the pinnacle of Jesus's example. He didn’t just serve His flock; He sacrificed for them. This is the ultimate act of love and selflessness. For elders, this is not just a call to martyrdom, but a call to self-denial. It means prioritizing the needs of the flock above their own comfort, convenience, and reputation. It means sacrificing their time, energy, and resources for the good of the church. It's about a willingness to serve in the trenches, to bear burdens, and to pour themselves out for the people of God. This guidance is what causes the sheep to have even greater respect for the shepherd. 4. Pastoral Consolation - An elder must give spiritual comfort during trials. They need to find the weak and hurting sheep. (II Corinthians 1:3-7; I Thessalonians 5:14; James 5:14) Elders can console hurting members of their congregation by first being present, sitting with them in their pain without trying to immediately "fix" it. This means listening more than talking, offering a shoulder to cry on, and creating a safe space for them to express their grief, anger, or fear. Rather than offering empty platitudes, elders should speak words of genuine empathy and compassion, reminding them of God's unwavering love and presence even in the midst of suffering. Practical help, such as bringing a meal, running an errand, or simply following up with a text, can also speak volumes. By embodying the heart of Jesus, the ultimate comforter, elders can provide a tangible sense of hope and solidarity, showing their hurting flock that they are not alone in their struggle. 5. Pastoral Guardianship - An elder must watch out for the enemy’s assaults on the weakness of the sheep. He must warn the sheep of danger and discipline them when they become rebellious. (Acts 20:28-31; I Thessalonians 5:14; I Timothy 6:20; II Timothy 4:1-5; Hebrews 13:17) The hired hand, Jesus warns, "sees the wolf coming and leaves the sheep and flees (John 10:12)." A true shepherd protects the flock from spiritual danger. In the New Testament, Paul reminds the Ephesian elders, "savage wolves will come in among you and will not spare the flock" (Acts 20:29). This protective role is crucial for elders. It means guarding the church against false teaching, worldly influences, and divisive spirits. It requires courage to confront sin, to speak truth in love, and to hold firm to biblical doctrine. It's a vigilant, prayerful ministry of safeguarding the spiritual well-being of the church. 6. Pastoral Discipline - An elder must be willing to discipline those who are unruly or living in sin. There is a biblical process they must follow in this practice. (Matthew 18:15-17; Galatians 6:12; I Corinthians 5:1-13, II Corinthians 7:1-2; II Timothy 2:23-25, 4:2; III John 9-10) Elders must practice church discipline with a heart of restorative love, aiming to bring a wandering member back to Christ rather than simply punishing them. This process, as outlined in passages like Matthew 18 and I Corinthians 5, should be a final, prayerful step taken after all other private efforts at reconciliation have failed. It requires immense wisdom, courage, and discernment to address sin in a way that protects the integrity of the church while preserving the dignity of the individual. When an elder confronts sin, their primary motivation is not judgment but a genuine concern for the spiritual health of the individual and the purity of the entire congregation. This difficult but necessary duty is an extension of their pastoral care, demonstrating a commitment to the well-being of the flock and a reverence for the holiness of God. 7. Pastoral Intercession - An elder must pray with and for those entrusted to him. Those who are wounded or hurting need to know that their shepherd is praying for them. (Romans 1:9; Ephesians 1:15-21; Philippians 1:9-11; Colossians 1:9-12; James 5:14) Elders are called to be vigilant intercessors for their flock, a role that goes beyond public prayer and extends into a consistent, personal practice of lifting up their congregation before God. This involves praying for their spiritual protection against temptation and false teaching, for their growth in grace and knowledge of Christ, and for wisdom and guidance in their daily lives. Elders should pray for specific members by name, addressing their individual struggles, whether they be related to health, family issues, financial hardship, or spiritual dryness. This focused intercession demonstrates a deep, personal commitment to the well-being of the flock, reinforcing the bond of care and trust between shepherd and sheep. Ultimately, through prayer, elders invite the Holy Spirit to work in the hearts and lives of the people they serve, recognizing that true change and healing come not from human effort, but from God alone. The role of an elder is a high and holy calling. It’s not a position of power or prestige, but a ministry of humble service. By following the example of Jesus, the Good Shepherd, elders can lead with compassion, protect with courage, and serve with a sacrificial heart. In doing so, they become a true reflection of the one who said, "I have come that they may have life, and have it to the full" (John 10:10). We should actively and consistently love and encourage our elders because they are a gift from God to the church. Their role is demanding, often thankless, and filled with spiritual burdens. By showing them honor, respect, and gratitude, we not only strengthen their hands in ministry but also participate in God's plan for the health and vitality of our congregation. When we lift up those who shepherd us, we are ultimately serving the Good Shepherd himself, helping to create a church family where both leaders and members thrive in love and unity. You are loved. Ray Reynolds, PhD #ReynoldsRap #ReclaimingHope #PeachtreePress #RayReynolds #MistyReynolds #lifecoaching #inspiration #encourage #positive #rayreynoldsrap #reclaiminghopeministry #Christianity #summerdale #churchofchrist #bible #authentic #Christian #positive #practical #community #mentoring #shepherding #gettingtoknowyourBible #GTKYB

A few days ago we brought Misty’s dad home on hospice care. As I write these words I’m only about four feet from his bed. He lays on a hospital bed in the living room. He’s wrapped in a very comfortable grey blanket. His favorite team (Alabama) just won comfortably over Wisconsin. He’s had his recent doses of medicine through an eyedropper after having to crush his meds and mix them with a protein shake. He is resting easy. Very easy. It’s a strange thing to watch those we love pass into eternity. We have to feed them, change them, bathe them and attend to every need. We watch as the minutes stretch to hours and sometimes hours to days. Just waiting for the end to come. Praying they aren’t in any pain. Hoping for one more glimpse in their eye that you are recognized and loved. A famous Indian poet one said, “Death is not extinguishing the light; it is only putting out the lamp because the dawn has come." I like that thought because it reframes the perspective on grief. But the Bible speaks the most valuable truth on the subject. Revelation 13:14 says, “Blessed are the dead who die in the Lord from now on… yes, that they may rest from their labors, and their works follow them.” I also love Psalm 116:15 that says, “Precious in the sight of the Lord is the death of his saints." Amen! Passing the Torch In 2010 I lost my mom. Her life was plagued with health issues and she died at the age of 53. At that moment in time my perspective on death completely changed. I didn’t realize it at that moment but it would mark the beginning of a new phase in life. Now I’m watching Misty experience similar emotions at the bedside of her loving father. She’s where I should have been. Where I wanted to be. But there are different struggles in comparison. I didn’t see the things that she’s seeing now. Proximity is everything. We’ve been with her mom every step of this journey. From the ER, to the hospital, to the rehab facility, and now home. Misty’s parents are like my own. Scratch that. They are my own! They’ve taken me in and loved me like a son. I want them to have peace and hate watching them hurt. So I’d do anything to help. But there is still a helplessness I feel. I can’t make the pain go away. Maybe you can relate? When your grandparents die, and then your parents too, you feel a figurative torch being passed. A baton you never wanted to carry. You might become the patriarch or matriarch of the family. I felt it in my gut. In my soul, even. Have you felt it? It didn’t haunt me. But it did humble me. I thought, “I guess I’ll be next.” Let’s put a pin in that thought and we’ll circle back. The Bittersweet Reality As a Christian, when our parents die, we face a unique, sometimes bittersweet, experience. There is profound sadness and grief, but there is always hope. Misty and I love that word! HOPE. We have a hope rooted in the belief that death is not the end, but a transition to eternal life with God. While this faith offers a measure of comfort, the process of saying goodbye remains difficult and emotional. The finality of death is a stark reality, and the grief over the loss of a parent is a universal human experience. Before we dig deep into the struggles and fear of death, we must keep this in perspective. Heaven is real. The reality of heaven is not a matter of wishful thinking. Not for me. And not for millions of believers. Not for my mom. And not for Misty’s dad. Heaven is more than a foundational truth woven throughout the Bible. It is our home. It has been created for us to enjoy for eternity. The Apostle Paul writes, "For we know that if the earthly tent we live in is destroyed, we have a building from God, an eternal house in heaven, not built by human hands." (II Corinthians 5:1) This verse speaks to a deep conviction that our physical bodies are temporary and that a permanent, heavenly dwelling awaits believers. Similarly, in John 14:2-3, Jesus Himself promises, "My Father’s house has many rooms; if that were not so, would I have told you that I am going there to prepare a place for you? And if I go and prepare a place for you, I will come back and take you to be with me that you also may be where I am." There are dozens of passages that provide a tangible promise of a real place, a prepared dwelling, that offers comfort and hope in the face of death. Heaven is portrayed not as an abstract state of being, but as a genuine destination where believers will be reunited with God, free from all sorrow, pain, and tears, as described in Revelation 21:4. Rest in that fact. Heaven is your eternal home. Don’t you want to go there? Who wouldn’t want their loved one to enter the pearly gates? The Fear of the Things Left Unsaid One of my greatest struggles is that I was not in the room when my mother died. My brother (who literally asks virtually nothing of me) begged me to come to Missouri to be by mom’s side. I did not. It’s a long story but suffice it to say I said my goodbyes over the phone. I failed him. I failed my mom. I failed my family. In that hour of need (a week in the making) I stayed in Alabama and waited by the phone. I’ll never make that mistake again. Misty and I are right here. Right where we need to be. The passing of a parent often brings with it the difficult question of whether we did enough. Did we say "I love you" enough? Did we thank them enough for their sacrifices? Were we present enough in their lives? The fear of not having said or done enough can be a heavy burden. It’s a fear born out of love and the realization that the opportunity for those words and actions is gone. This sense of finality can be particularly acute for those who had a strained or difficult relationship with their parents. The desire for reconciliation and forgiveness can become an overwhelming need as time runs short. The Christian faith encourages forgiveness and reconciliation, but these are often complex processes that can take a lifetime. When a Christian parent dies, the child is often left with the challenge of navigating their own feelings while also living out their faith. The Bible, particularly in passages like John 14:1-4, reminds us not to be afraid and that there is a place for us with God. This promise can be a source of strength, but it doesn't erase the pain. It is a faith that allows for both grief and hope. The two are not mutually exclusive. The Christian can mourn the loss of their parent while also celebrating that their going home. This is not about denying grief, but about seeing it through the lens of faith. Ultimately, saying goodbye to Christian parents is a deeply personal and emotional journey. It’s a journey that is both sad and hopeful. It is a time to reflect on the legacy of faith they left behind and to find comfort in the promise of eternal life. It’s also a time to remember that while our loved ones are gone, our memories and the impact they had on our lives remain. It is a time for grace, for ourselves, and for our parents, and a time to trust in the promise of God’s love and mercy. The Final Goodbyes Saying goodbye to our parents, even as Christians, is a journey full of fear and grief, a time of reflection and, sometimes, regret. It’s the final moments that often hold the most weight—the last words exchanged, the last touch, the last chance to say what needs to be said. And yet, there's a unique and sometimes painful reality that not all those moments are perfect. The fear of not having said enough is a common one. It's the "what if" that haunts us in the quiet moments of the night. What if I hadn't been so busy? What if I had made more time? What if I had been brave enough to express my love more openly? What if I hadn't let that one argument fester for so long? For the Christian, this fear is intertwined with the belief in a God who values relationships and reconciliation. There is a deep desire for things to be "right" before a parent passes away. But life is messy, and relationships are imperfect. Sometimes, the chance for that final, perfect conversation never comes. This is where the Christian belief in forgiveness becomes so essential, and so challenging. It's one thing to forgive a parent for a past hurt, but it's another to come to terms with the fact that they are now gone, and that the opportunity for a final "I forgive you" or "please forgive me" has passed. The burden of unresolved issues can be heavy. But even in this, there is a path forward. The faith that teaches us to forgive others also teaches us that God’s grace is sufficient, and that He can heal the wounds that we ourselves cannot. We can trust that our parents are in a place of peace, and that God's love has the power to bridge the gap that death has created. Ultimately, we have to find a way to make peace with our own hearts. We have to forgive ourselves for the things we didn't say, and the things we didn't do. We have to trust that our parents knew they were loved, and that they are now with a loving God. The journey of saying goodbye to our Christian parents is one that is marked by profound sadness, but it is also one that is filled with the hope of a reunion in the future. It’s a faith that promises that this is not the end, but a new beginning. We can grieve, we can hurt, but we can also have hope in the promise of eternal life. Final Thoughts My mind often wanders into my past experiences. I think about what I’d do to change the way I handled my mom’s death. What would I have said? How could I have been better prepared? I know one thing I can do. I can help Misty and her mom in this moment right now. I can help us all focus on the fact that this is not the end. Heaven is real. Eternity will be ours one day. I told you we’d circle back to that nagging thought, “Will I be next?” Maybe. But is that a terrible thing? I can only pray that when my hour has come I’ll be surrounded by the people I love the most. In a home I’ve lived in for many years. Next to a window that peers onto the porch where I’ve spent hours in reflection. Looking into a yard I’ve maintained and where my children and grandchildren have played. Where I could see the spot we’ve taken annual Easter pictures, played with the cats, flown RC planes, chased squirrels, and killed snakes. If you pause long enough you can imagine the love that’s been in this house. Misty’s mom started living in this house when she was in the seventh grade. Misty’s grandma died in this house, much in the same way her dad is now. It’s the family home! You can almost hear sounds of the kids running down the wood floors into the kitchen. You can smell the pound cake, cookies and pies wafting through the dining room and into the living room. I can see it. I can smell it. I can hear it. And it’s beautiful. As I sit in this room I reflect on all the Thanksgiving meals in the nearby dining room. The numerous traditional family Christmas events and unwrapping of presents in this living room. The tree stood in the very corner where dad’s bed is now situated. Birthday parties. Tickling fights. Wrestling. Hugging. Crying. And, most of all, expressions of Christian love. This is where I’d want to be. Wouldn’t you? Unless you don’t like the idea of having your son-in-law having to change your clothes and sheets. Don’t worry. I’ve told dad that he’s getting exactly what he’s paid for concerning my nursing skills and expertise! He laughed so hard! And we wouldn’t have it any other way. Misty, mom, me and a few family members have taken full advantage of this experience. We’ve laughed with dad and shared our favorite stories together. He is such a character. Jokes. Pranks. Funny stories. He’s so quick witted and, when he’s alert, he laughs with us and cries with us. Mostly happy tears. We’ve talked about him flying RC planes, joking at family gatherings, shooting guns with the grandkids, telling me I couldn’t date Misty (he just wanted me to marry her immediately) and other fun memories. He seems to not only appreciate the endearment but thrives on resting near us. He knows we’re right here to help. In the end, as we navigate the painful journey of saying goodbye, we are not left without hope. Our faith tells us that this goodbye is not forever. Death is a temporary separation. Just a moment in the span of eternity. We carry legacy, love, memories, faith, and laughter in our hearts until we meet again. The tears we cry are real, but so is the promise that one day, we will be reunited with our loved ones and our Heavenly Father, in a place where goodbyes are no more. Until then, we can live with a love that transcends grief, and a hope that transcends death. These days may be difficult but better days are ahead. Our home sweet home awaits us beyond the veil. That is the Lord’s promise. You are loved. Ray Reynolds, PhD #ReynoldsRap #ReclaimingHope #PeachtreePress #RayReynolds #MistyReynolds #counseling #lifecoaching #inspiration #encourage #positive #rayreynoldsrap #reclaiminghopeministry #Christianity #summerdale #churchofchrist #bible #didaskobibleinstitute #authentic #Christian #positive #practical #community #mentoring #death #dying #greif #hospice #family #Heaven

We’ve all heard the saying, "When it rains, it pours." It’s a phrase that perfectly captures those seasons of life where one challenge after another seems to pile up. A job loss, a difficult diagnosis, a strained relationship, a financial setback—sometimes it feels like the heavens have opened up not just with rain, but with a deluge of trials. As Christians, we are not immune to the storms of life. In fact, it often seems that when we are at our most vulnerable, the spiritual attacks intensify. Our enemy, Satan, is a master strategist. He knows our weaknesses. He enjoys punishing us. He loves to kick us when we're down. Just when we're reeling from one blow, he's ready with another. He hates us. The Bible gives us insight into his tactics. I Peter 5:8 warns us, "Be sober, be vigilant; because your adversary the devil walks about like a roaring lion, seeking whom he may devour." The "roaring lion" isn't just a metaphor for a fierce opponent; it’s an image of a predator looking for easy prey. When we're already hurt, discouraged, or exhausted, we are more susceptible to his lies and temptations. He whispers doubts about God’s goodness, questions our worth, and tempts us to give up. People often ask, “Why do bad things happen to good people?” This is a question that has plagued humanity for ages. There is no good way to reply to this question. The Bible doesn't offer a simple, one-size-fits-all answer, but it does provide some profound truths: 1) We live in a fallen world, 2) This world is marred by sin and its consequences. 3) Sickness, death, and suffering are not God's original design. 4) The result of the separation from Him, that comes with the Fall, is eternal death. You may not find a lot of Hope in the profound truth listed above. However, God is not absent in our pain. He is present and at work, even in the midst of the pouring rain. He uses these trials to refine our faith, to draw us closer to Him, and to develop our character. James 1:2-4 encourages us, "My brethren, count it all joy when you fall into various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience. But let patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing." This perspective shifts our focus from the problem to the purpose. The storm is not the end of the story. It is part of the process. When you're in the midst of a downpour, here is a promise to hold onto: The storm will not last forever. Yes! Rest on that truth. The rain will stop. The clouds will part. The sun will shine again. Seasons come and seasons go. The one thing that’s consistent in each season is that it has a beginning and an end. The beautiful rainbow that follows a storm is not just a meteorological phenomenon; it's a powerful symbol of God's covenant and His promise of hope. Genesis 9:16 says, "The rainbow shall be in the cloud, and I will look on it to remember the everlasting covenant between God and every living creature of all flesh that is on the earth." God remembers His promises, and He will see you through this season. And the next one too. If you are currently facing a downpour of trials, remember that you are not alone. Jesus Himself experienced unimaginable suffering. He knows what it’s like to be weary and in pain. Call out to Him; He is your refuge and strength. Try to remember that your season isn’t a punishment. God is not mad at you. He is with you in the fire. He is the potter, and you are the clay. He is shaping you for a purpose. He is molding you for something great. His work is unfinished. We have to hold onto hope. The rainbow is coming. God is faithful, and He will not abandon you. Keep your eyes fixed on Him, not on the storm. Don't let the enemy convince you that this is the end. Stand firm on the promises of God. Endure the rain, knowing that the a beautiful rainbow is on the horizon. Your testimony of God's faithfulness will be a beacon of hope for others caught in their own storms. I love that quote from Dolly Parton: “Storms make trees take deeper roots." It’s true. Stay grounded. Dig deep. And wait for the rainbow.

Finding a church home is about so much more than a great sermon or beautiful singing. It's about finding a family—a community where you are known, loved, and can grow in your faith. But how can you tell if a church is truly a loving one? A church that embodies the love of Christ isn’t just a building; it’s a living, breathing testament to His grace. Here are seven beautiful signs that you've found a church family filled with genuine, Christ-like love. 1. God is Glorified & Christ is King The lifeblood of a church family leads to the cross. The church itself is centered on His supremacy. This is demonstrated not through grand displays or self-promotion, but in humble obedience to His Word. A church that exalts God is one where the Gospel is preached with clarity and passion, where worship is focused on the majesty of God, and where members live out their faith by serving others and sharing the hope they have in Christ (John 4:24, Acts 2:42). They show that Jesus is King by submitting every aspect of their community—from their leadership structure to their financial stewardship and their love for one another—to His authority, seeking His will above all else. In doing so, they become a living testament to His reign, a light to the world that reflects His glory, and a family that is united under the loving rule of their Savior. 2. The Gospel is the Hub of Everything The church is not a country club but a community of broken people. A family. Judgment, criticism, prejudice, harshness and negativity are not tolerated in this family. A loving church understands that the greatest act of love ever performed was Jesus dying on the cross for our sins (John 3:16). They don't just talk about love; they talk about the source of all love. The Gospel message—the good news of salvation through Christ—is the foundation of their community. Their love for one another flows from their profound love for Jesus, and their sermons, their songs, and their service all point back to Him. 3. A Spirit of Grace, Not Judgment Building on the previous thought, a loving church is a safe place to be imperfect. It is a hospital for sinners, not a museum for saints. You can be vulnerable, admit your struggles, share your pain and seek help without fear of judgment. They understand that we are all on a journey, and they are there to walk alongside you, offering grace and encouragement, just as Jesus did. They remember the words of John 8:7: "He who is without sin among you, let him throw a stone at her first." Their love is a reflection of the endless grace they have received. Sometimes love is tough, and fellowship is tested, but the faithful stick together! 4. Community Centered Ministry & Missions A loving church doesn't just look inward; it looks outward. They aren't an island; they are a beacon. You'll see their love in action through community events, volunteer projects, and partnerships with local organizations. They care for the homeless, visit the sick, and support the schools, not for show, but because they are living out the command to "love your neighbor as yourself." They are the hands and feet of Jesus in their neighborhood, and their love is a tangible force for good. The very essence of Christ's love is selflessness. A loving church is full of people who serve without seeking recognition. They are the volunteers who set up chairs before anyone arrives and clean up long after everyone has left. They are the prayer warriors who lift up others' needs before their own. This self-sacrificial love is a powerful testament to the love of Christ, who “did not come to be served, but to serve" (Mark 10:45). 5. Open Arms of Fellowship True love doesn't put up walls; it tears them down. A loving church is one where you feel welcome the moment you walk through the door, regardless of your background, your past, or your present struggles. They see people not for what they've done, but for who they are: beloved children of God. As James 2:1 says, "My brethren, do not hold the faith of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Lord of glory, with partiality." A loving church family lives this truth, making everyone feel like they've found a home. Strong churches promote hospitality, generosity, benevolence and outreach. This isn’t about welcoming sin but reaching out to sinners. 6. Authentic Forgiveness is Paramount Where there are people, there are disagreements. But in a loving church, the love of Christ is stronger than any conflict. They understand that forgiveness isn't just a word; it's a way of life. When conflicts arise, they are handled with grace, humility, and a desire for reconciliation. They are a community that lives out Ephesians 4:32: "And be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God in Christ forgave you." Their ability to forgive reflects the immense forgiveness they have received from their Savior. 7. United in Purpose to Encourage & Support In a loving church, you'll find a community that celebrates each other's victories and weeps with each other in sorrow. They are a true family. When someone receives a new job, they celebrate with them. When someone loses a loved one, they rally around them with food, prayers, and a shoulder to cry on. They live out the call in Romans 12:15, "Rejoice with those who rejoice, and weep with those who weep." This kind of support builds a bond that is unbreakable and a love that is undeniable. The strongest churches are rooted in a family culture. They honestly feel like real brothers and sisters. Often with an even deeper connection and bond. One final thought, that summarizes all of these signs, is that if you find a church with these 7 qualities you will find a church that not only believes the Bible but lives according to it. Faithfulness is not just church attendance or financial stewardship. Faithful, loving churches are faithful to the pattern of the early church. They stand on the Bible! Finding a church with these qualities is like finding a hidden treasure. When you discover a community that embodies these signs, you've found more than just a place to worship; you've found a family, a support system, and a place to grow in the boundless love of God. Everyone searches for a place to belong. Isn’t it time you found your home? Become a part of the Lord’s church. You are loved. Ray Reynolds, PhD P.S. I’m blessed to be in the most loving church! I get to serve with the most loving people I’ve ever known. If you’re ever in the area, please come and visit us at the Summerdale Church of Christ. We would love to have you! #ReynoldsRap #ReclaimingHope #PeachtreePress #RayReynolds #MistyReynolds #counseling #lifecoaching #inspiration #encourage #positive #rayreynoldsrap #reclaiminghopeministry #Christianity #summerdale #churchofchrist #bible #didaskobibleinstitute #authentic #Christian #positive #practical #community #mentoring #gettingtoknowyourBible #GTKYB #love #unity

It’s a word we hear often, but living it out can feel like an uphill battle. In a world of instant gratification, where we can get what we want with a few clicks, waiting is a lost skill. Patience isn't just a virtue; it's a evidence of the Holy Spirit, a reflection of our faith in a God (who is sovereign over all things), and the byproduct of a spirituality mature child of God. The Bible has a lot to say about patience. And, yes, is not all about Job. The Scriptures are full of wisdom that can guide us on this journey toward a patient life. Let's look at what Scripture reveals about waiting on God and why it's so important for our spiritual growth. Patience is a Fruit of the Spirit The Apostle Paul, in his letter to the Galatians, lists the nine fruits of the Spirit. Right there in the middle, we find patience. Galatians 5:22-23 says, "But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self-control. Against such there is no law." The word "longsuffering" here is another way of saying patience. This is a powerful truth. Patience isn't something we can muster up on our own. It's a supernatural gift that God gives us through the Holy Spirit. When we are walking in step with the Spirit, we will naturally become more patient. This means that our lack of patience is often a symptom of a deeper issue – a lack of reliance on the Holy Spirit. I’ve seen many grandparents display an enormous amount patience with their grandchildren. I’ve witnessed customer service workers (who can be true saints) deal with the cruelest of customers. I’ve watched mature christians forgive the vilest of offenders. Evidence of the Holy Spirit. Patience is a Sign of Faith When we are impatient, we are essentially saying, "God, I don't trust Your timing. My plan is better." We get anxious, we worry, and we try to take control. True patience is an act of surrendering our desires, our timelines, and our worries to God. It’s a declaration that we believe God is working, even when we can't see it. Trust in Him (Proverbs 3:5-6) Consider the words of King David in Psalm 27:14: "Wait on the LORD; Be of good courage, and He shall strengthen your heart; Wait, I say, on the LORD!" David knew what it was like to wait. He waited for years to become king after being anointed. He faced trials, enemies, and setbacks, yet he consistently encouraged himself and others to wait on the Lord. He understood that waiting isn't passive; it's an active exercise of faith, courage, and trust. You may not have to wait 40 years to enter the promised land like the Israelites, or wait 30 years to start your ministry like Jesus, but good things come to those who wait. Maybe we should actually say great things come to those who wait! Because we have a great God that will do all good things in His time (Ecclesiastes 3:11). Patience is a Foundation For Service Patience isn't just about enduring; it's about believing in the glorious outcome. The Bible promises that those who wait on the Lord will be rewarded. Servants of God build their lives on faithfulness. Waiting on the Lord is crucial. Isaiah 40:31 is a beloved verse for a reason: "But those who wait on the LORD shall renew their strength; They shall mount up with wings like eagles, They shall run and not be weary, They shall walk and not faint." When we wait on God, He promises to infuse us with a strength that is not our own. He gives us the endurance to keep going when we feel like giving up. James 1:4 tells us, "But let patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing." Patience refines us. It burns away our selfish ambitions, our pride, and our need for control. It molds us into the image of Christ, making us "perfect and complete." Patience Must Be Cultivated So how do we grow in this essential virtue? It's a daily practice, but one thing we can do is pray for patience. It seems simple, but it's the most crucial step. Ask the Lord to produce this fruit in you. Pray for the strength to wait and the faith to trust. Look beyond the things of this world and focus your eyes on the cross and to Jesus. Instead of focusing on the delay, focus on the Deliverer. Spend time in worship and praise, reminding yourself of God’s goodness and faithfulness. Immerse yourself in God's Word. Reading about the patience of Abraham, the perseverance of Joseph, and the faithfulness of Jesus will build your faith and encourage your heart. You cannot read and meditate on God‘s worth near enough. Make it a priority. Learn to embrace the process. See every waiting period not as a punishment but as an opportunity for growth. God is doing a good work in you, and that work takes time (Philippians 1:6). Patience is a beautiful expression of our faith. It’s a quiet confidence that God is in control, that His plans are good, and that His timing is perfect. So the next time you find yourself waiting – for a job, for a spouse, for healing, or for an answer to prayer – remember to "wait on the LORD." He is faithful, and He will strengthen your heart. As Axl once sang, “All we need is just a little patience.” He’s no prophet or preacher but the message still rings true. You’ve got this. You are loved. Ray Reynolds, PhD #ReynoldsRap #ReclaimingHope #PeachtreePress #RayReynolds #MistyReynolds #counseling #lifecoaching #inspiration #encourage #positive #rayreynoldsrap #reclaiminghopeministry #Christianity #summerdale #churchofchrist #bible #didaskobibleinstitute #authentic #Christian #positive #practical #community #mentoring #gettingtoknowyourBible #GTKYB #patience #fruitofthespirit #waitontheLord

Living with ADHD can feel like having a million tabs open in your brain, all playing different songs at full volume. The constant hum of activity, the struggle to focus, and the seemingly endless energy can be overwhelming. But here's the good news: you can find strategies to calm the storm and bring a greater sense of peace and control into your life. Your brain is a super-fast sports car with racing stripes, but the brakes are a suggestion, not a command. One minute you're hyper-focused on the intricate patterns of a dust bunny, and the next you're planning an elaborate five-course meal you'll never actually cook. It's a constant adventure of misplaced keys, brilliant ideas, and the occasional spontaneous dance party in the living room. Life with ADHD doesn’t have to be a struggle. It's important to remember that ADHD is a neurodevelopmental condition, not a personal failing. You can learn to manage symptoms and foster a more harmonious relationship with your brain. This isn’t about "curing" ADHD but following a roadmap for peace. With that in mind, let's explore 7 effective ways to calm your ADHD. 1. Organize Your Schedule For an ADHD brain, predictability can be a superpower. Establishing routines for your mornings, evenings, and even work tasks can significantly reduce decision fatigue and the anxiety of the unknown. Don't think of it as rigid confinement, but rather a scaffolding that supports your day. Maintain a schedule that works for you. * Start small: Maybe it's a consistent wake-up time or a specific wind-down routine before bed. My phone buzzes at 10 every night to tell me it’s time for bed. * Visual cues: Use checklists, whiteboards, or digital reminders to keep your routine on track. I use sticky notes. For whatever reason I love throwing away the note after the job is completed. * Build in flexibility: Life happens! If a routine gets derailed, don't abandon it entirely. Just hop back on when you can. If I finish a task I reward myself with a healthy treat from my snack drawer. 2. Prioritize Your Movement That boundless energy often associated with ADHD? It's a fantastic resource when channeled effectively. Physical activity is not just good for your body; it's a powerful tool for calming your mind. Exercise helps to burn off excess energy, improve focus, and even boost mood-regulating neurotransmitters. * Find what you enjoy: Whether it's walking, hiking, cycling, or team sports, consistency is key. I love walking with Misty & Lily in the yard just before dark. * Short bursts count: Even 10-15 minutes of movement can make a difference. I like to walk while I’m on the phone. One of our boys (who also has ADHD) walks around the house while on the phone. It works. * Incorporate movement breaks: If you have a desk job, stand up, stretch, or walk around every hour or so. I like to reward myself with a walk around the office or in our church gym every couple hours. Choose to walk to the furthest bathroom, coffee pot or water fountain. 3. Relax Your Mind Mindfulness isn't about emptying your mind, which can feel impossible with ADHD. It's about observing your thoughts and feelings without judgment. Even short periods of mindful awareness can help you feel more grounded and less overwhelmed. * Practice mindful breathing: Simply focusing on your breath for a few minutes can be incredibly calming. In my book, Slaying the Anxiety Monster, I reveal that if I’m anxious this is my first step. * Try guided meditations: Apps like Calm or Headspace offer short, accessible meditations specifically for focus and anxiety. I’ve written several blogs on this subject. Meditation has multiple benefits. * Engage your senses: Pay attention to the sights, sounds, and smells around you during everyday activities like eating or walking. Watch the rain. Look at the trees swaying in the breeze. Keep coffee beans in your desk. Chew gum or have dark chocolate on the ready. 4. Optimize Your Environment Clutter and disorganization can be major stressors for ADHD brains, contributing to feelings of overwhelm and difficulty focusing. Creating a calm and organized environment can significantly reduce sensory input and improve your ability to concentrate. * Declutter regularly: Even small steps can make a big difference. "A place for everything and everything in its place" is a helpful mantra. I’ve practiced this in my shop for the past year and it’s made the garage my happy place. * Minimize distractions: Turn off notifications, close unnecessary tabs, and find a quiet space for tasks requiring concentration. Shut off the radio or television. Close your door. * Use visual organizers: Transparent containers, labeled drawers, and clear shelving can help you see what you have and where things belong. Again, my detached garage has been a labor of love but it’s much more organized than any space we have at home. I’ve also established a color coded folder system in my church office. 5. Embrace Your Strengths ADHD is a super power! Hyperfocus, while sometimes leading to neglecting other tasks, can also be an incredible asset. When you're deeply engrossed in something you find genuinely interesting, your ADHD brain can achieve remarkable levels of concentration. * Identify your passion projects: What are you naturally drawn to? Dedicate specific time to these activities. Try art, sketching, drawing, coloring or other hobbies. Make it a priority to engage in fun activities. * Structure your day: Schedule time for hyperfocus periods alongside your other responsibilities. I’ve set goals for each day. My goal is to finish all my office work in 4 days each week. * Strive for productivity: If a task aligns with your interests, you can use hyperfocus to get it done efficiently. My super power is to hyper clean or organize. I enjoy cleaning the garage or organizing the pantry. Misty loves this! 6. Fuel Your Brain & Body Don’t judge me for my struggle with my weight. And, yes, I confess it is a struggle. Diet and exercise do not come easy for me. What you put into your body and how much rest you get profoundly impacts your brain function and emotional regulation. I’m still learning ways to live a healthier lifestyle. * Balanced nutrition: Focus on whole foods, lean proteins, fruits, and vegetables. Limit processed foods, excessive sugar, and caffeine, which can exacerbate ADHD symptoms. * Hydration: Dehydration can impact cognitive function and energy levels. Drink plenty of water throughout the day. I drink a 32 oz thermos of water every four hours. We’ve got a purified water fountain at work that has been a game changer! * Prioritize sleep: Establish a consistent sleep schedule and create a relaxing bedtime routine. Quality sleep is crucial for attention, memory, and emotional stability. If you meet your goals you can reward yourself with a short nap. 7. Grow Your Village It takes a village. You don't have to navigate ADHD alone. Connecting with others who understand your experiences can provide invaluable support, validation, and practical advice. TikTok and YouTube have hundreds of resources. * Join support groups: Online forums or local groups can offer a safe space to share and learn. Make friends and build connections. * Educate loved ones: Help friends and family understand how ADHD affects you, so they can offer appropriate support. Don’t be afraid to share your triggers as well as your coping strategies. * Consider professional help: A therapist specializing in ADHD can provide coping strategies, medication management (if appropriate), and guidance tailored to your specific needs. This is one of the primary reasons Misty and I got certified in mental health and life coaching. For those navigating the vibrant, often chaotic, world of ADHD, hope isn't a distant wish but a daily companion. It’s the quiet understanding that challenges are simply opportunities for innovative solutions, and that every unexpected detour can lead to a fascinating new discovery. Hope lies in recognizing the extraordinary strengths that come with an ADHD brain: the boundless creativity, the remarkable resilience, and the unique ability to connect disparate ideas in a flash of insight. Celebrate every small victory, forgive every forgotten task, and know that your individual rhythm, while different, is perfectly valid and incredibly powerful. Embrace the journey, for within it lies the boundless potential to not just cope, but to truly thrive. Finding calm with ADHD is an ongoing journey, not a destination. Experiment with these strategies, be patient with yourself, and celebrate every small victory. By implementing these practical approaches, you can create a life that feels more balanced, focused, and ultimately, more peaceful. You are loved. 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Golf is a very expensive hobby. Whether it’s a well manicured course in Baldwin county, or Top Golf in Mobile, it’s fun to play the game. I absolutely love hitting the links but rarely get the opportunity. Maybe it’s the crisp morning air, the satisfying thwack of a well-struck ball, or the challenge of a new course, it’s always fun. Most of my boys also love to play, especially our son Brady. We’ve got a practice net in the yard, clubs all over the garage and golf balls scattered around our nearly 3 acre property. But let's be honest, most of us have a love/hate relationship with the game. Every time I feel like I'm finally getting into a groove, some new obstacle pops up to humble me. Whether it's an unplayable lie in a sand trap that seems to have a magnetic pull on my ball, a water hazard that swallows my best drive, or a thicket of trees that acts like a ball-eating monster, there's always something standing between me and my goal making par. It's frustrating, maddening even, but then I remember that feeling of pure bliss when I sink a long putt, or land a perfect chip, and I know I'll be back for more punishment in the future. Life's journey is rich and complex, comprising moments of joy, sorrow, and success, but also, inevitably, challenges. Just like in golf we all encounter situations—from minor annoyances to seemingly impossible hurdles—that test our determination and threaten to sidetrack us. Yet, for those who live by faith, these traps and hazards aren't dead ends; instead, they are chances to witness God's power, strengthen our trust in Him, and ultimately transcend our present circumstances. Just an obstacle. The human experience, regardless of era or geography, is marked by the presence of challenges. From the minor irritations of daily life to the towering giants that threaten to overwhelm us, obstacles are an undeniable part of our journey. Yet, for believers in Christ, these aren't dead ends but rather divine appointments—opportunities to witness God's transformative power and deepen our reliance on His boundless grace. The Bible is full of inspiring accounts of individuals who, despite daunting odds, triumphed over adversity by clinging to their faith. Their stories serve as powerful reminders that our circumstances do not define our destiny; our God does. OLD TESTAMENT EXAMPLES Joseph: From the Pit to the Palace Consider the incredible journey of Joseph, found in the book of Genesis. Betrayed by his brothers, sold into slavery, falsely accused, and imprisoned, Joseph's life seemed a continuous downward spiral. Yet, through it all, "the Lord was with Joseph" (Genesis 39:2, 21). He didn't allow his bitter circumstances to embitter his heart or extinguish his hope. Instead, he remained faithful, diligent, and trusting in God's sovereignty. Ultimately, God elevated Joseph from the depths of a dungeon to the pinnacle of power in Egypt, saving not only his family but an entire nation from famine. Joseph's story is a testament to God's ability to turn even the most dire situations into platforms for His glory, as he himself declared: "But as for you, you meant evil against me; but God meant it for good" (Genesis 50:20). Moses: From the Palace to the Prairie Moses faced an overwhelming obstacle: leading millions of Israelites out of slavery in Egypt and confronting the most powerful ruler of his time. With no military training or political influence, Moses felt inadequate and apprehensive. Yet, God assured him, "I will be with you" (Exodus 3:12). Armed with a divine promise and a staff that became an instrument of God's power, Moses confronted Pharaoh, witnessed miraculous plagues, and led his people through the parted Red Sea. His faith, though sometimes wavering, ultimately prevailed, demonstrating that with God, even the mightiest oppressors can be overcome. His story echoes through the holy scriptures, even into the New Testament. David: From a Shepherd to a Soldier Perhaps one of the most iconic stories of overcoming an obstacle through faith is that of David and Goliath. A young shepherd boy, armed with only a sling and five smooth stones, faced a Philistine giant who had terrorized the armies of Israel. Everyone else saw an impossible foe, but David saw an opportunity to demonstrate God's power. When facing his enemy David declared, "You come to me with a sword, with a spear, and with a javelin. But I come to you in the name of the Lord of hosts, the God of the armies of Israel, whom you have defied" (I Samuel 17:45). David's unwavering faith in God, not his own strength or skill, brought down the giant and secured victory for Israel. NEW TESTAMENT EXAMPLES Peter: From Fisherman to Fisher of Men Few characters in the New Testament demonstrate such a dramatic trajectory of overcoming personal failure as Simon Peter. Brash, impulsive, and deeply devoted, Peter was also prone to fear and doubt. His most significant obstacle wasn't an external enemy but an internal weakness: his denial of Jesus, not once, but three times, just as Jesus predicted (Matthew 26:69-75). The weight of this failure must have been crushing, yet Peter's story doesn't end there. After the resurrection, Jesus specifically sought out Peter, restoring him with a triple affirmation of love and a command to "Feed My sheep" (John 21:15-17). This act of grace transformed Peter. Empowered by the Holy Spirit at Pentecost, the once fearful disciple boldly preached the Gospel, facing opposition and even imprisonment with courage (Acts 4:8-20). He became a foundational leader in the early church, proving that God's forgiveness and restorative power can turn our greatest failures into platforms for His glory. Peter's journey reminds us that even when we stumble, God's grace is sufficient to pick us up and use us mightily. Paul: From Persecutor to Proclaimer Saul of Tarsus, later known as the Apostle Paul, faced an internal obstacle of a different magnitude: a vehement hatred for Christians and an active role in their persecution. He genuinely believed he was doing God's will by persecuting followers of "the Way" (Acts 9:1-2). His entire worldview was diametrically opposed to the Gospel. However, on the road to Damascus, Jesus Himself intervened in a blinding light, confronting Saul with his misguided zeal (Acts 9:3-6). This dramatic encounter led to Paul's conversion and a complete reorientation of his life. The man who once imprisoned believers now became the most zealous missionary, enduring countless external obstacles: shipwrecks, beatings, imprisonments, and constant threats (II Corinthians 11:23-28). Yet, Paul embraced these trials, viewing them as opportunities to magnify Christ. He wrote, "I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me" (Philippians 4:13). Paul's life vividly illustrates that no past sin or ingrained belief system is too great for God's transformative power. He turned a persecutor into an apostle, demonstrating that God can take our greatest flaws and use them for His highest purposes. The Early Church: From Persecution with Perseverance While not a single individual, the early Christian church, as depicted throughout the book of Acts and the Epistles, represents a collective triumph over immense obstacles. From its very inception, the church faced relentless persecution from both Jewish authorities and the Roman Empire. Believers were ostracized, arrested, tortured, and even martyred for their faith. Yet, despite these brutal realities, the early church not only survived but thrived. Their obstacle was existential, threatening to extinguish the very flame of Christianity. Their response, however, was not to cower but to persist in prayer, fellowship, and the bold proclamation of the Gospel. "And with great power the apostles gave witness to the resurrection of the Lord Jesus. And great grace was upon them all" (Acts 4:33). They understood that their ultimate allegiance was to Christ, and His power superseded any earthly threat. Their unwavering commitment in the face of death inspired countless others, leading to the explosive growth of Christianity. The early church teaches us that even when the world opposes us with all its might, the power of God working through His people is unstoppable. WHAT CAN WE LEARN? These biblical narratives offer profound lessons for us as we navigate our own obstacles. No matter what giants you face today—be it financial hardship, health crises, relational struggles, or personal failures—remember that your God is bigger than any obstacle. * God is with us in every trial. Just as He was with Joseph, Moses, David, Peter, Paul and the early church, He promises to be with us, never leaving nor forsaking us (Hebrews 13:5). * Faith is the key to overcoming. It's not about the size of the obstacle, but the size of our God. When we trust in Him, He empowers us to do what seems impossible. * Obstacles can be opportunities for growth. God often uses our trials to refine our character, strengthen our faith, and reveal His power in new ways. * Perseverance is paramount. There will be moments of doubt and discouragement, but continuing to trust and obey God, even when the path is unclear, is crucial. "Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up" (Galatians 6:9). * Perseverance in faith yields victory. Even in the face of severe opposition, holding fast to Christ will enable us to overcome. * God specializes in redemption. No past failure or present weakness is beyond His ability to restore and use for good. * Transformation is possible. Whether it's a change of heart, a redirection of purpose, or an empowering for ministry, God can utterly transform us. * Our greatest challenges can reveal God's greatest strength. "My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness" (II Corinthians 12:9). Look to the examples of those who rose above their circumstances through faith, and allow their stories to ignite your own. For with God, trials can truly become triumphs, and obstacles, stepping stones to a deeper relationship with Him. Whatever obstacles you are facing, remember these biblical heroes. Their stories are not just historical accounts but living testaments to the truth that with God, triumph is always possible, and our trials can become the very stages upon which His glory is most vividly displayed. Just like a round of golf, our journey of faith isn't always a perfectly smooth drive down the fairway. There will be errant shots into the rough, frustrating moments in the bunker, and even times we hit it squarely into a water hazard, seemingly losing all progress. But here's the beauty of it: just as a skilled golfer learns from each challenging lie and focuses on the next shot, our faith teaches us resilience. We pick ourselves up, learn from our missteps, and trust that with each swing – each act of surrender and belief – we are still moving towards the ultimate hole. In life it's not about a flawless scorecard, but about the unwavering conviction that the One who laid out the course knows the way, even when we can't see the flagstick. So, keep swinging, keep trusting, and know that every stroke, good or bad, is part of a grander design. Stay in the game! Give it your best and God will do the rest. The back 9 never looked so good. You are loved. Ray Reynolds, PhD #ReynoldsRap #ReclaimingHope #PeachtreePress #RayReynolds #MistyReynolds #counseling #lifecoaching #inspiration #encourage #positive #rayreynoldsrap #reclaiminghopeministry #Christianity #summerdale #churchofchrist #bible #didaskobibleinstitute #authentic #Christian #positive #practical #community #mentoring #future #Jesus #faith #obstacles #golf

As believers, we are called to something far greater than just existing. We are called to be soldiers in the army of the Lord, actively engaged in the greatest battle of all – the fight of faith. This isn't a physical battle with swords and shields, but a spiritual one, waged in the unseen realms against forces that seek to steal, kill, and destroy. The Apostle Paul, a seasoned veteran in this spiritual warfare, urges us in I Timothy 6:12 (NKJV), "Fight the good fight of faith, lay hold on eternal life, to which you were also called and have confessed the good confession in the presence of many witnesses." This isn't a suggestion; it's a command. We are to actively, intentionally, and relentlessly engage in this fight. So, what does it mean to "fight the good fight of faith"? It means standing firm on God's promises, even when circumstances scream otherwise. It means trusting in His character when doubts assail us. It means speaking truth to lies, even when our voices tremble. It means persevering through trials, knowing that our ultimate victory is assured in Christ. But how do we, as mere mortals, engage in such a profound spiritual battle? This is where the wisdom of God truly shines. We are not sent into battle unprepared or unarmed. God, in His infinite love and foresight, has provided us with everything we need to stand victorious: the whole armor of God. In Ephesians 6:10-18 (NKJV), Paul meticulously lays out each piece of this divine weaponry: 10 Finally, my brethren, be strong in the Lord and in the power of His might. 11 Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the wiles of the devil. 12 For we do not wrestle against flesh and blood, but against principalities, against powers, against the rulers of the darkness of this age, against spiritual hosts of wickedness in the heavenly places. 13 Therefore take up the whole armor of God, that you may be able to withstand in the evil day, and having done all, to stand. 14 Stand therefore, having girded your waist with truth, having put on the breastplate of righteousness, 15 and having shod your feet with the preparation of the gospel of peace; 16 above all, taking the shield of faith with which you will be able to quench all the fiery darts of the wicked one. 17 And take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God; 18 praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, being watchful to this end with all perseverance and supplication for all the saints— 19 and for me, that utterance may be given to me, that I may open my mouth boldly to make known the mystery of the gospel, 20 for which I am an ambassador in chains; that in it I may speak boldly, as I ought to speak. * The Belt of Truth: This is the foundational piece. Without truth, everything else crumbles. We must know and cling to God's Word, which is truth (John 17:17). Lies are a primary weapon of the enemy, and only truth can expose and dismantle them. * The Breastplate of Righteousness: This protects our vital organs, our heart and conscience. Our righteousness comes not from our own efforts, but from Christ alone. Clothed in His righteousness (Isaiah 61:10), we are impenetrable to the accusations and guilt the enemy tries to hurl our way. * The Shoes/Sandals of the Gospel of Peace: Our readiness to share the good news of Jesus provides stability and purpose. When our feet are firmly planted on the gospel, we can navigate any terrain the enemy throws our way, bringing peace to a chaotic world. Blessed are the feet of those who carry the gospel (Romans 10:15). * The Shield of Faith: This is our primary defensive weapon, designed to extinguish "all the fiery darts of the wicked one." Our faith in God's power, His promises, and His unwavering love is what deflects and neutralizes every attack the enemy launches (I John 5:19). * The Helmet of Salvation: This protects our minds, the battlefield where many spiritual battles are won or lost (I Thessalonians 5:8). Knowing we are saved, that our eternity is secure in Christ, guards our thoughts against despair, fear, and doubt. * The Sword of the Spirit, which is the Word of God: This is our offensive weapon, the only one listed that is used for attack. The Word of God is living and powerful, sharper than any two-edged sword (Hebrews 4:12). With it, we can demolish strongholds, expose deception, and proclaim God's victory. And finally, after donning the armor, Paul reminds us to "Praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, being watchful to this end with all perseverance and supplication for all the saints." Prayer is the constant communication with our Commander, receiving guidance, strength, and reinforcement. It is the vital link that empowers every piece of our armor. Being in the Lord's army is not a passive role. It's an active, daily commitment to walking in faith, standing firm against the darkness, and wielding the spiritual weapons God has provided. We are not fighting for victory; we are fighting from victory, knowing that Christ has already triumphed over sin and death. So, fellow soldier, put on your armor! Stand firm in the truth, walk in righteousness, share the gospel, wield your faith, protect your mind with salvation, and speak forth the powerful Word of God. And above all, pray without ceasing (I Thessalonians 5:17). For in the Lord's army, fighting the good fight of faith, we are more than conquerors through Him who loved us. You are loved. Ray Reynolds, PhD #ReynoldsRap #ReclaimingHope #PeachtreePress #RayReynolds #MistyReynolds #counseling #lifecoaching #inspiration #encourage #positive #rayreynoldsrap #reclaiminghopeministry #Christianity #summerdale #churchofchrist #bible #didaskobibleinstitute #authentic #Christian #positive #practical #community #mentoring #future #Jesus #faith #wholearmor #Ephesians #Lordsarmy #soldiersofChrist